t’s also easier to let them fall into their own garbage with “I don’t get it.” Or “I don’t understand.”
“I don’t know what you mean.”
“I don’t get it.”
“I don’t understand.”
“Why?”
“That doesn’t make sense.”
Them: [Bigoted claim.] Right?
You: I don’t get it.
Them: [Bigoted Claim]
You: …Wow.
You can even embellish:
“Do people really think that?”
“I’ve never heard someone say that.”
“I’ve never heard that before.”
“I didn’t know you felt that way.”
“You believe that?” / “Do people really believe that?”
“…Huh.”
“You really think so?”
And my favorite: “…yikes.”